How Do People Get This Sick? Why? I Just Don’t Understand!!??

REDFORD TOWNSHIP, MI (AP) – A 25-year-old woman has been charged in the slaying of her newborn son whose body was found hidden at a suburban Detroit freight management business.

The Wayne County prosecutor’s office says Kimberly Pappas of Wyandotte is expected to be arraigned Friday on felony murder, premeditated murder and first-degree child abuse charges.

The boy was delivered full-term on March 31 in the restroom of the Redford Township company where Pappas worked as a temporary employee. The newborn then was sealed in a plastic bag and placed in a tote bag near Pappas’ desk.

Another employee contacted authorities who rushed the newborn to an area hospital.

The medical examiner’s office ruled the death a homicide by suffocation.

Court records did not list an attorney Friday for Pappas.

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What A Day…

Well, it has been the day from beyond!! On the way to my 2nd grade daughter’s allergy testing appointment, we blew a tire on the highway! Traffic was nuts! So, rather take any chances… I called for roadside assistance. Our roadside assistance person… could not find us on a map… LOLOL I explained where we were… and that any one from the area would understand… so just have them call me and I can explain it to them… The lady then argued with me that she could not without a location. She was in Saskatchewan, or some place… I am sure of it… LOLOL She continued a long line of questions… well, what mile marker are you at? I said there is no, mile marker… I can see Exit 11 coming up… as I had stated before… Well, she bantered on… that is not on my map… I said… well, on the Exit 11 it shows a campground … does that help… nope was her response… She said… just give me a building or landmark… I again explained… there are no buildings etc… we are on the highway! So, I said give me a break lady… please… it has been along day and seeming by the minute to get even longer! Once again… I explain exactly where we are… highway name, exit we passed 2 miles back and the exit I can see coming up… going east bound… gave a city to our west and the city to our east… and she proceeds to tell me that… those towns are not on her map!! So, I said… whatever, please have them call me… thank you! Could not get her off the phone fast enough!! Hopefully, someone comes soon! The first dude that came was unable to help me… LOLOL So, he left my daughter and I at the roadside… I called and canceled the appointment and explained that when I was in a better spot would call to reschedule! The second response to our roadside assistance brought a tow truck and took us to a shop where we got 2 new tires… meanwhile 4 hours later we made it home! My daughter was a trooper and did really well… so glad it was her and not one of our others that would have had a complete meltdown…

LOLOLOLO When I arrived home… there were 11 messages from roadside assistance, the first tire change person and the tow truck… the “Dingbat” gave them my home phone number instead of my cell number even though I had to verify 3 times the number in which I was calling from! Oh… I am glad I was in a good mood today… cause this could have went very different!! LOLOLOL Little Karl

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Quote For The Day:

There are always flowers for those who want to see them.
— Henri Matisse

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5 Regrets Of The Dying: Think About These. #5 Is A Real Epiphany.

After many years of feeling unfulfilled at her job, Bronnie Ware set out to find something that resonated with her soul. She ended up in palliative care where she spent many years helping those who were dying. Some time later, she compiled a list of the 5 most common regrets expressed by the people she cared for.

The list she collected gained huge popularity, and we are sharing it with you here today because it’s something all of us should keep in mind. Even though it can be hard to think about, this stuff is really important for your happiness right here and now!

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

”This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

This is really truthful and beautiful advice, even though it’s a bit hard to think about. Take it from the people that have been there, and don’t make the same mistake! Share these 5 points, as everyone could use a reminder from time to time.

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Quote For The Day:

You can do two things at once, but you can’t focus effectively on two things at once.

– Gary Keller –

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Parenting Help: Help Kids Unplug!

7 Ways to Help Kids Unplug from Technology
–by Launa Schweizer, syndicated from, Apr 14, 2015

My childhood unfolded in the last few years BC (Before Computers). However, my own children and my students have lived their entire lives with bleeps and buzzes and signals from multiple channels of information. Parents and teachers alike worry about the impact that constant multitasking is having on children’s developing brains.

Kids—digital natives—swim comfortably in the floods of information and often crave the sensation of clicking from screen to screen, flicking from channel to channel, and juggling tasks throughout each day. The problem, according to neuroscientists, is that multitasking is changing our human brains as we prioritize juggling over digging deeply into thinking, relationships, and planning.

But beyond constantly nagging our kids to unplug, what can parents and teachers to do help them develop the habits of mind that make for a happy life and deeply creative thought? I recently attended a brilliant presentation from neuroscientist and educator JoAnn Deak, who shared practical ideas, rooted in solid scientific research, that will help us to help our kids.

And what’s even better? These ideas are also a win-win for adults, because if we can practice what we preach, we’ll also be helping ourselves stay focused and centered.

1. Don’t confuse juggling multiple tasks with deep thinking.

Doing lots of work at one time may give us the false impression that we’re working more efficiently. But studies show that doubling up on tasks increases errors and prevents us from doing any one thing very well.

This is because, neurologically speaking, “multitasking” does not exist. When we juggle tasks, we’re not working deeply; instead, we’re doing part of one thing at a time, in series, and allowing ourselves to be constantly interrupted.

As Deak explained to the teachers at the conference, shifting from one mode to another leads to an inevitable loss of focus in the original mode. If you’re deeply involved in, say, writing an essay, and you hear the sound of an incoming text message, your deep attention is broken and requires effort to rebuild. Breaking your flow of concentration means that it’s more difficult to get back to deep thought. We need to teach kids to limit distractions and to complete one task at a time.

2. Give learners time for input, then processing, then output.

As Deak explained, we can take in new information by listening, reading, looking, hearing a lecture, or watching a film. However, as soon as we need to process that information in order to store it to memory, the input channel has to be temporarily interrupted. When we process that information, we sort it, categorize it, summarize it, or otherwise put it into order, drawing information into deeper and more permanent brain structures, creating memories.

After input and processing happen, we’re ready to engage the third channel, “output.” When our brains are engaging in this function, we are practicing, explaining, speaking, writing, drawing, or otherwise producing our own version of what we have learned, or connecting old ideas together in new ways. This step drives the information further into memory.

And not every learning experience needs to end in a test or a term paper. In terms of learning, the form of output is not as important as the three-step process: 1. Input. 2. Processing. 3. Output.

Neuroscience explains one reason why homework seems to take longer now than it did when we were kids: Switching from one mode to another breaks the flow of concentration and makes it harder to get it back.
3. Help kids to learn to break up the three stages—on purpose.

Deak suggested that most people can’t pay close attention for more than 10 or 20 minutes, possibly 30 maximum. After a predictable interval of input (reading a chapter, learning a new skill from an expert, or listening to an oral lesson), it’s important to take two or three minutes to turn the information over in your mind and consciously shift to the processing stage. These kinds of questions help brains to process:

“What’s the main idea? What evidence supports that idea?”

“What are three words that describe this thing I am learning?”

“How does this relate to what I already know?”

“How can I use this information?”

Taking time to process moves our thinking back from the prefrontal cortex toward the hippocampus, where memories are made. Asking great questions, not just simple factual questions, of young learners helps them process what they’ve learned.

But even that level of memory storage has a limit, which is why our brains learn best when we move to the level of output—of using the information in the context of what we already know. Rather than letting these three stages happen (or not), we can learn most efficiently if we commit to making each step happen in sequence.

4. Unplug to speed up.

Neuroscience explains one reason why homework seems to take longer now than it did when we were kids: Switching from one mode to another breaks the flow of concentration and makes it harder to get it back. If students are watching TV (even with the sound off), with earbuds pumping music (even music without words) and a smartphone nearby jingling with social media updates as well as text messages, their attention will be constantly diverted from the task at hand.

The same is true for adults at home or at work. It’s not all in your head: If you’re a heavy user of technology, those valuable devices are eating your time and attention and rarely give any back. Too much technology, left on all the time, makes everything take longer. So if you know you or your child has a task to do, use an app like Self Control or Think to strategically shut down digital stimuli that get in your way. Here are some productivity apps you might find useful.

5. Break the phone addiction.

Brain research shows that every new notification, email, bleep, ping, or letter dropping into our mailboxes can produce a brief emotional rush, the result of a tiny hit of dopamine (the neurochemical responsivle for the sensation of pleasure) in our brains. We also get a little dopamine rush from hearing an emotionally gripping song. The problem? Those rushes teach us to reach down for our phone, refresh the screen, and click among the applications we use most to see what’s new. In the Internet age, there is something new literally every second—and therefore no limit to the amount of information and stimulation we can click for.

Sure, some of us are ER doctors, on call at all times. But for the rest of us, putting the phone down, turning it off, and walking away gives our brains the chance to clear the drive for dopamine and open up to what’s going on right in front of us. Kids need us to model powering down at regular intervals.

And for children and teenagers, the impulse to text, particularly late at night, can be overwhelming. Most experts recommend that parents collect their children’s telephone 30 minutes before the time they need to be asleep. So charge those phones far from anyone’s bedroom!

6. Understand that Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is real, not just a symptom of our times.

Some of our brightest thinkers flip all too easily from one idea to the next. While they may be adept at making new connections, their brains lack the strong electrical signals required to release neurochemicals into brain synapses to keep messages moving along smoothly.

In brains with ADHD, too many signals are blocked by the deficit of neurotransmitters, leading to the diffusion of the deep concentration required to learn. In a way, an ADHD brain acts like a brain trying too hard to multitask, dropping thoughts.

Deak also mentioned that other common afflictions can produce this sort of situation: dehydration—even mild dehydration—lack of sleep, or high stress produces a mental state that mimics ADHD. This is why the proper diagnosis of ADHD is so time-consuming and important.

The prescription of stimulant medication to treat ADHD remains controversial, but Deak likened it to insulin for a diabetic. A brain with ADHD needs more dopamine and norepinephrine in order to allow it to make connections, precisely the effect of stimulant medications.

The other thing about stimulants? If a brain really does struggle with ADHD, the medication tends to work. If someone with a neurotypical brain takes stimulants, he or she is likely to feel jittery and wired. But a relatively brief trial of medication (half the time on stimulants and half on a placebo) can quickly achieve results. For 80% of people who truly have the disorder, the current forms of medication work well when prescribed by an experienced and sensitive physician.

7. Model mindfulness: Play with your kids.

The pace of modern life has given us enormous gifts but also requires us to consciously tune out the world’s external stimuli if we want to truly “tune in” to our experiences, our relationships, and a deeper understanding of concepts and ideas.

For adults, mindfulness exercises, writing poetry, taking walks in the park, or merely leaving all our devices turned “off” for long stretches of the day can allow us to slow down our minds to the pace at which they were meant to work.

But kids tend to be most mindful and present while they play, with screens off. Do your child’s developing brain a favor: Set the phone aside—both of you—and find time for both of you to do what you love. Go deep, get silly, and connect in real time. Your child’s brain depends on it.

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